Your first time having sex can be the subject of a lot of excitement, but it can also carry feelings of fear or anxiety. Mostly, though, it's hard to imagine what it will actually be like when it happens. For many of us, the only conception we have of our first time is what we see in the movies, but those portrayals don't very often get it right — especially when it comes to the first time.
Somewhere along the line, deciding to wait to have sex got a bad rap. Unfair, huh? First time sex is different to regular sex and he'll need to be extra gentle with you.
Yet for most of us, the first time is, well, awkward emotionally, logistically, spiritually, etc. It ended up getting out of hand with over people showing up. Since it was her first time, she bled everywhere.
The more money, the more problems — send either my way here. At what point does it get embarrassing to have never even had a date, much less a relationship or sex? Even the single ones have had plenty of romantic experience. In reality, everyone comes to love and relationships differently and in a way that is unique to them.
Photo by Flickr user Jennifer Lee. It's everywhere. From movie posters to music on the radio to commercials for everything from cars to clothing, sex is ever-present in the marketing schemes of our corporate overlords.
For some individuals waiting till marriage to have sex is a religious choice, however, if you are an individual like me, my faith does not have any impact as to when I should or should not have sex. I am choosing to wait until marriage and until I find the right spouse for myself to experience those attributes of life. Now, during this article by no means is my goal to make those who have had sex prior to marriage or already had sex, in general, feel awful or wrong about the choices they have made in regards to their own personal lives and bodies.
On Monday, I talked a little about the toxic culture surrounding masculinity and how it hurts men. Today, I want to start the conversation to help dismantle it. And one of the best places to start is to talk about sex. And so the cycle continues, leaving them feeling ashamed, lost, even bitter and resentful.
Sometimes it's hard to relate to friends when they have had sex and you haven't. They may talk about what they've done and you feel left out or maybe they're pushing you to have sex. They might even be making fun of you for it.
At 16, I had my first boyfriend, and telling him I was a virgin was a no-brainer because he was also my first kiss. He was the bad-boy type—definitely more experienced than I was—and I was attracted to him even though I knew I would never have sex with him. So at 16, I thought I had it all figured out: find someone special and all the pieces will fit together pun intended. And then I got to college, land of the dorm rooms.