After writing a blog for the Huffington Post debunking myths and misperceptions about transgender children, I was inundated with messages from parents of transgender children thanking me for it. In the conversations that followed, I realized that there was something missing from it though: the perspective of the parents. I spoke with eight parents in detail, looking for what patterns emerged from their narratives.
Coming out as transgender can be a scary step to take. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to help make the coming out process easier for yourself and the people around you. Over time, your confidence will grow as you find acceptance and support.
You may have total certainty within, feeling sure of your dysphoria and eager to express it. You may wonder about the real potential of being left without a sense of support from your family or, even worse, getting kicked out of your home depending on your age. With that, here are a few very practical questions to consider before coming out as transgender to your parents.
Being an advocate for your child can be difficult when the person you are defending them against is your own family, so first and foremost, try to approach these initial conversations with patience and compassion, rather than being confrontational or defensive. Situations to Prepare For:. Hard time with terminology — People who are not familiar with transgender people or concerns may have a steeper learning curve when it comes to terminology and pronoun use.
Studies on gender-nonconforming parents such as masculine women or feminine men, for instance have found that when traditionally gendered mom and dad parenting roles are reversed or reshuffled—or even combined in the caretaking of a single parent—there is no adverse effect on the child. Children tend to have fewer preconceived notions about gender than adults do. Experiences vary for children with a transgender parent who transitions.
Let friends in your social network know what you are reading about. If your child brought this up, it is very important to hear what they are saying right now. A link has been sent to your friend's email address.
I love creating comedy sketches and films, writing, directing and acting in them. Coming out is different for everyone, all I can do is draw from my own experiences and if these nuggets of advice help just one person then my job is done! But self-acceptance is the first step towards living your life authentically.
My practice approach is collaborative and I am dedicated to providing a safe space where clients can explore issues, gain insight and become empowered. Moderated by Jennifer CrumlishPh. Psychologist My practice approach is collaborative and I am dedicated to providing a safe space where clients can explore issues, gain insight and become empowered.
Gendered Intelligence is a not-for-profit Community Interest Company. Its mission is to increase understandings of gender diversity through creative ways. It works predominantly with the trans community, specialising in supporting young trans people.
A leading social conservative Christian organization says NBC News should be "ashamed" of publishing an article that suggests parents should teach their children to reject sexual norms and accept trans-ideology. Diane Ehrensaft, the director of mental health at a gender clinic in San Francisco, California, and author of The Gender Creative Childwas quoted as saying. Melinda Mangin, an associate professor in education at Rutgers University, claims that asking questions could objectify the child. It also instructs people on using new transgender-inclusive pronouns, and encourages asking people which pronoun they use.